Monday, August 2, 2010

A Moronic Desire

An epitome of asininity…An embodiment of blind illiteracy…An absolute exemplification of heartlessness…All defined by a single desire – of having a male being born in the family – demonstrated by most of the residents of Pakistan. A daft so-called tradition which has victimized almost the entire Pakistani nation and isn’t being questioned considering the massive number of people posing as ardent supports privately, if not publicly.

A marital knot, tied between a strong man and a delicate woman, exhibits the initiation of a new beginning towards a supposedly prosperous life and an unbreakable commitment of being together for eternity; but what the in-laws fail to put forth is the condition suggesting dissolution of this contract, if and when the newlywed bride is unable to conceive specifically a son. Whether she is capable of reproducing or not, is an altogether different scenario at this point primarily because the mother-in-law – in particular – doesn’t cater to extrapolate on that scenario, thus heartily assumes the bride to be fertile.

The destitute woman in question, while succumbing to her purported mother – aka mother-in-law which I will refer to as the purported mother from now on – actually tries to fulfill the wish upon which her life continuously hangs. Unable to comprehend, as to why she would be held responsible if a son isn’t produced, she prays day and night in an attempt to make her newly founded family glad. As for the purported mother, she has a back-up plan in reserve; a plan which suggests her son’s second marriage if her desire isn’t brought to completion. To the utterly oblivious wife’s dismay, her supportive life partner also turns out to be a part of this atrocious scheme, no matter what the reason. Now, a notion worth-mentioning proves out to be the reaction of especially the purported mother after the birth of her grandchild. If luckily she is bestowed with a grandson, then she runs out on the streets and screams with joy and gives her blessing to her son; on the other hand, if a granddaughter is born, she endlessly blames the mother and shares her exasperating thoughts with her son. I can’t help but notice the importance of the wife – who gave birth after going through the troubles of pregnancy – in both the scenarios; she remains neglected and a mere medium of childbirth in this God-forsaken evil society.

The cause of the purported mother’s proclaimed superiority (even though she is a female herself) you may ask? There are two; one is her ability to produce a son, even if he happens to be the only child and after whose birth she became infertile, and second is her misconception pertaining to the asserted fact that the grandchild would serve to be a support for not only his parents - but also his grandparents. All other irrelevant thoughts – dealing with karma − do not matter and never will because she has a son and everything else is absolute garbage. She miserably fails to grasp the significance of having to see the face of an angelic child, let alone being blessed with a baby boy.

There is nothing more beastly and cruel than this asinine tradition of fostering desire to have sons or grandsons. Such women shouldn’t be granted with children of their own, let alone the penchant for having grandchildren. I consider it one of the major dilemmas of Pakistani society, which if eliminated can, not only lead to a powerful society of women but also can eventually halt their brutal deaths and murders, be it physically or mentally.


theBollywoodFan said...

You're right about this, and this psyche is rampant across South Asia and the Middle East, really. All said and done about the purported mother -- therein lie the roots, sure -- but still, shame on the 'men' who could learn a thing or two about loyalty to their woman, and about how little we all control in the bigger picture.

I wonder if there's some data out there which would illustrate the number of South Asian households with the youngest child being the only male sibling, and how that has contributed to the population growth, too. Not saying that's a bad thing, but we know what the source is...

...grrr. Shame.

R Zaib said...

A true comment indeed. If only men could learn about being loyal to their wives, like you said yourself.. it might solve at least a part of the hardcore issues.

You are completely right when mentioning the population issue. This asinine desire must inevitably be the number 1 cause of the overpopulation dilemma.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Vivarjitha said...

ha...very true...i duuno y, but this stupid tradition has existed in many places...wish it wud fade away!!!

R Zaib said...

You are right Vivarjitha. I wish that too.

Fickle Cattle said...

I understand the dilemma, and it is a prevalent mindset in Asia I think. In my country as well, although the problem is not as widespread. We have bigger problems honestly.

R Zaib said...

It is a really prominent issue in Pakistan and countless women suffer through this agony. And to add to our dismay, we don't have any solid solution for it unfortunately. It absolutely needs to be solved, especially in Pakistan.

Anyhow, thanks for commenting.

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